Church today inspired me to go back to my Journal and read previous entries.. WOW. Most people write a journal so their children will know what they went through when they were young. What can I say? ... I must really love boys.
One of my favorite entries though, before I get to the main point:
"Friday, February 14, 2003.
When I wright in my journal nobody can look in it because it's my journal and NOBODY can look in it at all. Good."
So you can't look in my journal. Got it? Rule of life.
ANYWAY.. back to my "boys" thoughts.
I would like to make a point that girls have problems when they start hitting puberty and liking boys and such.. boys probably have the same problems but I am at least living proof that girls are freaks.
"April 13, 2005 (Age 11)
Yesterday I actually talked to "Bob". He's a cute boy. His brother is on Izaak's soccer team. He's 11 turning 12 in, I think, July or June. He's in 5th grade. He says his brother "Billy" likes me. (Yes in my journal I underlined "likes" at least 3 times.)
That's awful because his brother "Billy" is only eight and I'm 11. There's a little bit of a difference in there. Well, what three years. But then "Billy" says that "Bob" likes me. (Again, underlined 4 times there.) I don't know which one is true but maybe they're both telling the truth.
"Billy" sure blushed when his brother said he liked me."
... yes I inserted fake names to make the boys feel better.. I honestly don't even remember these kids. So.. this was my first written account of me and boys.. not including my brothers.
On October 13th of the same year I have a whole page filled on how freaked out I am about having hormones. "That's it! I'm totally boy crazy! It's scary. Hormones are like taking over my body and I don't want that to happen!" .. accompanying my "freak out" insert, I had on the page to the right of it a girl that was being attacked by blobs which I conveniently labeled "hormones" for the reader. Pretty handy dandy there, aye?
(Yes, I'm laughing.) Check this one out!
"Monday, March 6, 2006 (Age 12)
Yesterday, freaky, including having boys stare at me and having the boy I like pass the sacrament to me. It was kinda freaky but I guess life is like that sometimes. I need to be very careful."
From July of 2007 to April of 2008 I counted about 8 boys that I mentioned having a crush on and then found about 6 others that I mentioned but wouldn't be caught dead with a diary explaining that I had an undying love for them in my dreams.
It wasn't until high school when the boy thoughts calmed themselves down and allowed room in my noggin for schoolwork, dance, instruments, etc. Hallelujah, at least it happened at some point.
October 28, 2008 was the first time I ever actually mentioned having a conversation with someone of the male sex. Hooray for actually attending a school for the first time in 3 years! Homeschooling doesn't give you too much of a boy variety. Unless you prefer your brothers and dad in which case you're pretty well off.
And here I am now.. going to many group dates, blind dates, group nights, dance extravaganzas, etc. as I can and just plain enjoying boys' company! Its interesting to see my growth in this aspect.
I encourage all readers to go back to their journals or diaries.. what do you have to be embarrassed about?
Sunday, August 15, 2010
Sunday, July 25, 2010
Integration and Segregation
Let us be completely honest with ourselves here. You have a group of boys and girls together in a room.. would you rather have them segregated or integrated? You have a group of billions of different ethnic people in a room, integrated or segregated? You have groups of kids with different talents in a room, integrated or segregated?
Guess you got the theme, right?
Picture this. You walk into a room and you have all the girls on one side of the room and all the guys on the other. A wise old man walks up to you from the front of the room and tells you to find a seat wherever you'd like. Your choices are either: a seat next to a bunch of girls, giggling and talking together, or between a bunch of guys chillin on the other side of the room, having a good time too.
With all honesty, I'd be going to sit with the guys no questions asked. Although I also know very well that the majority of the girls walking into that room would walk towards the girls, afraid to step out of the obvious boundaries created between the two segregated groups. ( I don't seem to care.) And it would possibly be the same for guys although I haven't seen this act in action.
Again.. I know I'm super Mormon and all but give me a chance to explain. Growing up my parents were always cool with me hanging out with girls and guys alike. As long as they were good trustworthy kids. In opposition to this, my Mormon friends would ask their parents if they could go hang out with a group.. first three questions..
"Where are you going?"
"What are you doing?"
"Will there be any girls/boys there?"
.. and immediately your son/daughter thinks, "Oh man, okay if I answer yes will I be told I can't go or will they feel like they can trust me more 'cause I'm honest?"
By this question are modern day teens supposed to understand that the opposite sex is dangerous and not to be toiled with until the age of marriage has become reality? I mean seriously.. what? I'll be completely truthful.. I love boys.
My Top Five
1. Food
2. Dance
3. Music
4. Family
5. Boys
Why in life are teens taught that segregation is "right" and "safe" and "expected"? In my opinion, being kept away from life's greatest pleasure and danger, the opposite sex, makes especially rebellious, strong-willed, dumb teenagers (I plead guilty in this case) want it and fight for it even if it means hurting or losing the trust of a parent, leader, or favored adult in return.. just 'cause we're stupid like that.
And NOW for my absolute favorite analogy!!
The Jelly Bean Analogy
As a teenager we must taste all the jelly beans until we find the flavor we love! To know our favorite flavor we have to nibble and taste each flavor. Of course if someone tells you about a certain booger flavored jelly bean you will run like a bat outta hell to avoid it (or at least I'd sure hope so.)
(Quick experience update: I remember driving down the street with my mom one day and we came up along side a jelly bean semi. First thing that came out of my mouth, "Dang mom, imagine the amount of boys I'd get to taste!" .. Yes I speak my mind.)
So integration or segregation? I've put up my argument. Lets see what you y'all got in opposition.
Comment and Share,
My Love,
Alina Lauren Cooper
Guess you got the theme, right?
Picture this. You walk into a room and you have all the girls on one side of the room and all the guys on the other. A wise old man walks up to you from the front of the room and tells you to find a seat wherever you'd like. Your choices are either: a seat next to a bunch of girls, giggling and talking together, or between a bunch of guys chillin on the other side of the room, having a good time too.
With all honesty, I'd be going to sit with the guys no questions asked. Although I also know very well that the majority of the girls walking into that room would walk towards the girls, afraid to step out of the obvious boundaries created between the two segregated groups. ( I don't seem to care.) And it would possibly be the same for guys although I haven't seen this act in action.
Again.. I know I'm super Mormon and all but give me a chance to explain. Growing up my parents were always cool with me hanging out with girls and guys alike. As long as they were good trustworthy kids. In opposition to this, my Mormon friends would ask their parents if they could go hang out with a group.. first three questions..
"Where are you going?"
"What are you doing?"
"Will there be any girls/boys there?"
.. and immediately your son/daughter thinks, "Oh man, okay if I answer yes will I be told I can't go or will they feel like they can trust me more 'cause I'm honest?"
By this question are modern day teens supposed to understand that the opposite sex is dangerous and not to be toiled with until the age of marriage has become reality? I mean seriously.. what? I'll be completely truthful.. I love boys.
My Top Five
1. Food
2. Dance
3. Music
4. Family
5. Boys
Why in life are teens taught that segregation is "right" and "safe" and "expected"? In my opinion, being kept away from life's greatest pleasure and danger, the opposite sex, makes especially rebellious, strong-willed, dumb teenagers (I plead guilty in this case) want it and fight for it even if it means hurting or losing the trust of a parent, leader, or favored adult in return.. just 'cause we're stupid like that.
And NOW for my absolute favorite analogy!!
The Jelly Bean Analogy
As a teenager we must taste all the jelly beans until we find the flavor we love! To know our favorite flavor we have to nibble and taste each flavor. Of course if someone tells you about a certain booger flavored jelly bean you will run like a bat outta hell to avoid it (or at least I'd sure hope so.)
(Quick experience update: I remember driving down the street with my mom one day and we came up along side a jelly bean semi. First thing that came out of my mouth, "Dang mom, imagine the amount of boys I'd get to taste!" .. Yes I speak my mind.)
So integration or segregation? I've put up my argument. Lets see what you y'all got in opposition.
Comment and Share,
My Love,
Alina Lauren Cooper
Saturday, July 17, 2010
Love's Definition
I'm sure many readers have played the 20 questions game with a friend before. If not, in this game you and a friend exchange questions, sometimes simple and other times difficult, until you basically run out of questions. (I've often times surpassed 20.) One particular time I was asked if I believed in love at first sight. Quickly and easily I answered that I did not. It was a simple question with a simple answer but ended in a long brought out discussion.
Going through this thoughtful argument I decided to look into it a little bit and figure out if it was possible.. I am honestly still at a loss. Maybe my readers can help me out?
Here is the beginning of our dilemma.. the dictionary definition -->
_________________________________________________
–noun
1. a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person.
2. a feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection, as for a parent, child, or friend.
3. sexual passion or desire.
_________________________________________________
(Yes, I did remove some useless definitions.)
My knowledge to the point of this conversation immediately set me on the track of "true love is definitely impossible." From what I could understand, love is a feeling you have towards someone you know and understand, number 3 in the definition bank would make my hypothesis wrong. Although 3 does not support my idea.. 2 more than explains my thoughts and 1 compliments the idea. With this in mind I went to the Bible for some thoughts also.. love is an important virtue in religion.
In religion, whenever you see the word love, charity also accompanies it. In this way of thinking love is also an action. Ever seen "Dan in Real Life?" For those of you who haven't the main character has a daughter who is madly "in love" with this boy, Marty. At one point in the movie Dan, the father, is yelling at the young man, "Marty you don't even know what love feels like! blah, blah, blah" and what not. After a few second of this Marty turns to the father and says very calmly
"Love is not a feeling, Mr. Burns. It's an ability."
Well looky here there are verb definitions for love.
–verb (used without object)
21. to have love or affection for another person; be in love.
Now.. I know this is a very broad topic of discussion and can be argued in many ways but I stand by my first belief. Love at first sight is impossible. Lust at first sight is probable. Distinguish the two from each other and you can be well on your way. Comment and add your thoughts to the mix.
"Love" to all,
Alina Lauren Cooper (;
Going through this thoughtful argument I decided to look into it a little bit and figure out if it was possible.. I am honestly still at a loss. Maybe my readers can help me out?
Here is the beginning of our dilemma.. the dictionary definition -->
_________________________________________________
–noun
1. a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person.
2. a feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection, as for a parent, child, or friend.
3. sexual passion or desire.
_________________________________________________
(Yes, I did remove some useless definitions.)
My knowledge to the point of this conversation immediately set me on the track of "true love is definitely impossible." From what I could understand, love is a feeling you have towards someone you know and understand, number 3 in the definition bank would make my hypothesis wrong. Although 3 does not support my idea.. 2 more than explains my thoughts and 1 compliments the idea. With this in mind I went to the Bible for some thoughts also.. love is an important virtue in religion.
In religion, whenever you see the word love, charity also accompanies it. In this way of thinking love is also an action. Ever seen "Dan in Real Life?" For those of you who haven't the main character has a daughter who is madly "in love" with this boy, Marty. At one point in the movie Dan, the father, is yelling at the young man, "Marty you don't even know what love feels like! blah, blah, blah" and what not. After a few second of this Marty turns to the father and says very calmly
"Love is not a feeling, Mr. Burns. It's an ability."
Well looky here there are verb definitions for love.
–verb (used without object)
21. to have love or affection for another person; be in love.
Now.. I know this is a very broad topic of discussion and can be argued in many ways but I stand by my first belief. Love at first sight is impossible. Lust at first sight is probable. Distinguish the two from each other and you can be well on your way. Comment and add your thoughts to the mix.
"Love" to all,
Alina Lauren Cooper (;
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